Monday, 26th August 2019

In Free Solo, Facing Fear Is Just A Benchmark and Not the Goal

Posted on 21. Jul, 2019 by FSM Staff in Uncategorized

In <em>Free Solo</em>, Facing Fear Is Just A Benchmark and Not the Goal

An abridged version of the recent award winning documentary Free Solo goes something like this: Man climbs giant rock in Yosemite with no safety equipment for first time in history. The longer version involves a man with poor social skills, elite climbing skills, and a small circle of really patient friends. Instead of spoiling the journey for those who have not watched this epic documentary yet, I just want to focus on something simple said by protagonist Alex Honnald when he was discussing the danger of free soloing the famously tall El Capitan:


I physically moved, well flinched actually, upon hearing that quote for the first time (I’ve watched the film many more times since then). So simple yet so profound – one of those obvious tidbits of information I hear once in blue moon that completely changes my way of looking at something.

Working in the area of behavior, I often help individuals of all ages who are afraid of something. For so long, I’ve conflated conquering fear with the ultimate outcome of a goal. Consider for example, a swimming goal for a child who is afraid of the water. The goal itself is recording if the child gets in the pool or not, not necessarily if they are afraid. In that sense, conquering the fear of water isn’t the ultimate goal – getting in the pool is! Not being afraid is just a benchmark to hit along the way.

Or think of a person who wants to visit someone in another country but is too afraid of flying. If the goal is to fly to another country, they will have to learn more about flying than just how to manage their fear. Being unafraid won’t guarantee the individual makes it to his or her final destination. Imagine showing up in the wrong country? Then we’ll have new fears to deal with. Another example is a first time entrepreneur who finally overcomes their fear of taking out a large loan. They were just loaned the money, now what?

Alex Honnald’s goal was never to conquer his fear of dying. His goal was to free solo El Captian. When he was confident enough in his skills and preparation, his fear of making a fatal mistake subsided. But he still had to climb the darn rock!

You face your fear because your goal demands it.

So I’m moving forward with this new mentality of looking at conquering fear as more of a benchmark, or a dragon to be slain along the way, than the end result.

Get Dirt Cheap Collectibles

Posted on 23. Jan, 2017 by FSM Staff in Uncategorized

Get Dirt Cheap Collectibles

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The Plight of the Modern NBA Fan

Posted on 07. Dec, 2011 by FSM Staff in Uncategorized

The Plight of the Modern NBA Fan

The NBA lockout is finally over folks. As hot dog vendors and professional basketball players gear up for a shortened 66 game NBA season, the common fan has been lost in the shuffle.

When news broke that a tentative labor agreement was reached, the feeling was bittersweet. I was happy I would get to see Blake Griffin do his thing, but also upset at the owners and players for putting us fans through this mess. Both parties had their hiss-fit over millions and billions all the while knowing we would be there with open arms when they finally came to their senses.

And that’s just the problem. The fans are never willing to lockout out the NBA. Our love of basketball trumps our poor treatment. We will sit there and take it month after month because we just want to see some hoop. The players know this and the owners do too. Why wouldn’t they take their sweet time?

I would love to lead a movement that calls on sports fans to boycott the NBA for these upcoming 66 games. If they don’t want to play the first half of the season, we shouldn’t be so eager to watch the second half. But there will be no revolution for me, especially in the midst of a recession. This country needs every job we can get right now from the parking lot attendant to the half-time show entertainment. Also, I’ve been itching to watch Blake Griffin’s high flying antics again. Did I mention I like Blake Griffin?

So it’s with great frustration that the loyal NBA fans around the world must usher in the abridged 2011-12 season. In a few years we will put all the negative feelings behind us and the outrage will subside – until this mess happens all over again.

John Wooden Tribute

Posted on 05. Jun, 2010 by FSM Staff in Uncategorized

John Wooden Tribute

Legendary UCLA basketball coach John Wooden passed away on 6/4/10 and the entire sports world is in mourning. The Wizard of Westwood was 99 years old and he left behind a legacy of greatness on and off the hardwood. Wooden’s outlook on life and the lessons he taught us will not be soon forgotten. There are and will be many articles out there about his great accomplishments which include winning a record 10 NCAA Basketball tournaments. FreeSportsMag would like to deviate slightly so that we can present to you some of John Wooden’s famous inspirational quotes. May his wisdom live on in the hearts and minds of athlete and non-athlete alike…

“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”

“A coach is someone who can give correction without causing resentment.”

“Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.”

“Adversity is the state in which man mostly easily becomes acquainted with himself, being especially free of admirers then.”

“Consider the rights of others before your own feelings, and the feelings of others before your own rights.”

“Ability is a poor man’s wealth.”

“I’d rather have a lot of talent and a little experience than a lot of experience and a little talent.”

“Don’t measure yourself by what you have accomplished, but by what you should have accomplished with your ability.”

“If you’re not making mistakes, then you’re not doing anything. I’m positive that a doer makes mistakes.”

“Success comes from knowing that you did your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming.”

“It’s what you learn after you know it all that counts.”

“You can’t let praise or criticism get to you. It’s a weakness to get caught up in either one.”

“Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.”

“What you are as a person is far more important that what you are as a basketball player.”